Whether people admit it or not, everyone's favorite topic is themselves. But it has to be done the right way or it won't work. So let's talk about that.
There is, of course, no shortage of topics that people enjoy talking about.
And more than that, it's almost impossible for us to tell for sure what someone else will be interested in.
But still there is one conversational technique that can help us immensely, and that works with almost everyone.
It's one that taps directly into everyone's favorite topic. Themselves.
Now some people object and say "I hate talking about myself". But I always challenge them on that.
You see, those who say they hate talking about themselves are usually just not used to getting the opportunity to talk about themselves to someone who is truly, genuinely, interested in learning about them.
When you know how to create that kind of conversation, you'll be an expert conversationalist. Because a conversation where you get to learn what you are genuinely interested in learning about someone - and they get to talk about themselves to someone who really wants to listen - that is an amazing conversation for everyone involved.
So let me help you figure out what you are genuinely interested in learning about others, and show you how to become a master at creating these conversations.
Ok. You've watched the video. Now, what are you genuinely interested in learning about others?
Is there a difference between what you'd like to know, depending on who they are? Does your list for potential partners look different than for potential friends? Is it different for family members than others? How about professional relationships?
It might seem like a lot to work through. But your conversations will flow much more easily once you get a clear idea of these topics.
Want to learn more conversational techniques? There are plenty both in my confidence course and my assertiveness course ;)
Hi, I'm TJ Guttormsen.
Since 2009 I’ve coached clients ranging from Olympic gold medalists and billionaires, to people who simply want more out life.
I’ve done over 100 national media appearances, published books, and created online courses that have earned several “Highest Rated” titles from their 11 000+ members.
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